Jenna is an incredibly admirable parenting and lifestyle blogger based in South Wales. She is a mum to two little girls aged 3 and 8 months; and is currently carrying a little one as a surrogate. We hope you enjoy her journey.
How did your surrogacy journey start?
I have always wanted to be a surrogate; well before I even knew that I wanted children of my own. When I was in my teens I ended up on a dangerous dieting path and was told that I would be very lucky if I were able to have children naturally – it was that moment that made me realise that I wanted children and that if I were lucky enough to become pregnant naturally, then I would definitely carry for someone else who couldn’t. I started researching through different agencies over a year ago – not long after a family member approached me as she was looking to use a surrogate. A year later and I am now 25 weeks pregnant with the family member’s little one.
What were your expectations?
I only thought you could go into surrogacy through an agency; I had never heard of independent surrogacy via friends, family and/or groups on Facebook. I also never know how big a community there is out there surrounding surrogacy. Since getting to know these people, I have discovered that there are other surrogates living locally to me.
How do you feel about those expectations now?
I am truly amazed at the amount of advice and support that is available – it is something that I never expected and I know that after this journey I will have made life long friends.
What was the easiest part (or parts)?
Matching as it was with someone I had known all of my life; the trust was already there and we didn’t need to build the relationship purely for them to get a baby at the end of it.
Where did you struggle the most?
The medication – I am a needle phobe and couldn’t inject myself so had to have family do it for me. Also, at our 7 week scan I was sent straight to EPU as there was a suspected gestational sac in my fallopian tube. They still don’t know if it was a sac or a cyst, but whatever it was it didn’t grow so they weren’t too concerned.
Did you feel completely supported by your loved ones?
When I first announced that I was looking into surrogacy, there were a lot of concerns. However, now that those people know who I am doing it for they are very supportive.
Looking back, would you change anything?
I would like to say that I would have done it sooner, but realistically I needed to complete my own family first. I think everything has gone perfect so far.
Would you do it again?
I would absolutely love to – surrogacy is like an addiction. However I don’t think I will as I am hoping to go back to university next year to study midwifery – I have spent the last 4 years pregnant so I would like to do something for me after this.