Anjana’s parenting journey started a few years ago and she has opened up to us about her C-Section, postpartum depression, patience and parenting worries. We really enjoyed interviewing her and look forward to sharing her story….
So, Anjana, how did your parenting journey start?
With the birth of my son IN 2015! LOL!!
What were your expectations?
I didn’t expect it to be easy, but didn’t think that it would be that hard also! The most surprising part was that my husband rose to the occasion so very well! He is an extremely hands on dad – and that helped!
How do you feel about those expectations now?
Well! It’s still hard. But at least I’m fully recovered now. The first 6 months I had severe back ache because I had delivered via C-section. It is a big shortcoming on my side that when I’m physically not well – be it during periods or during fever – I become extremely irritable. And on top of this, if I have a tiny human fully dependent on me – it made things difficult for me. But, now motherhood has made me more mature and much more patient! I cope better now – even on the days I’m down!
What has been the easiest part (or parts)?
Well, the easiest part had to be feeding – breastfeeding to be exact. I loved having the satisfaction that this cubby and cute baby is so healthy because I have nourished him from my own body! And now that he is being weaned – we enjoy the struggles of putting food in his mouth! LOL!!!
Where have you struggled the most?
Like I said, I struggled most with my lack of patience. My husband has always been a natural parent. He was so patient with my son from the first day – I envy him that. More so because I was very depressed initially – and suffering from postpartum depression I think.
Have you always felt supported?
Yes. I have always felt supported. At Least my son has always been supported! My husband is very nurturing and super concerned about everything when it comes to our child. He would do most of the household chores and make sure that everything is in place when it came to the kiddo. Do I sound just a little bit jealous? Yes, right? That’s because initially, I would have liked some of that attention too! LOL!!!
What helps you get through the tough days?
My mom. She had come down for the first 30 days to help out. She kept telling me that it is a phase and will pass. In India many husbands are not that bothered about the household duties etc as child rearing is considered primarily a woman’s job. And seeing my husband work so hard – from doing the laundry, to soothing the baby, to letting me have some shut -eye – She told me I am among the lucky few!
What makes you smile?
Whenever, my son used to coo at me and hold my fingers during breastfeeding made it a joy for me! Now, when I see him smiling, playing and jumping and having fun – everything about him brings a smile to my face. Now, I find all the feelings I had during the first 6 months or so very silly.
Anything else you would like to add?
My mom had some very practical tips like “give your baby one feed from the bottle everyday” so that when you go out and travel etc, you won’t have much trouble. However, I was always so worried about plastic going into my baby’s mouth that I refused to use any bottle or pacifier. Even the baby lotion I used to make myself. Now, when I look back I think I should have followed her advice and made life easier for myself. There were many glass bottles in the market, but I just didn’t do it. I don’t know why – maybe I didn’t have the confidence that I’ll able to sterilize the bottles well and my baby will end up getting diarrhea! I put too, too, much pressure on myself to ensure that I had a perfectly natural home free from chemicals.
Anjana is a mommy blogger at MommyRepublic. She describes herself as an imperfect mother stumbling through motherhood discovering the joys of natural and attachment parenting along the way.